Wholeness

The Ground Rules: Wholeness

We are all of fundamental equal worth
At the same time, our community is richest if we let all members contribute in their distinctive way, appreciating the differences in roles, education, backgrounds, interests, skills, characters, points of view, and so on.

Any situation can be approached from fear and separation, or from love and connection. We choose love and connection.
We strive to create emotionally and spiritually safe environments, where each of us can behave authentically.
We honor the moods of love, care, recognition, gratitude, curiosity, playfulness, kindness, fun, and creativity.

We recognize that we are all deeply interconnected, part of a bigger whole that includes nature and all forms of life.

We choose to be in the world with play and creativity, being willing to learn & be surprised.
Every problem is an invitation to learn and grow. We will always be learners. The more we know, the more we know how much more there is to know…
Failure is always a possibility if we strive boldly for our purpose. We discuss our failures openly and learn from them. “We develop experience by making mistakes; The benefit of experience is that we make fewer mistakes”, but only if we learn from them. Sharing that information benefits all of us by helping each other learn more quickly…
We focus on strengths more than weaknesses, and on opportunities more than problems

If we are free to play, to experiment and discover, if we are free to fail, what might we create?

It is impossible to change other people. We can only change ourselves.
We take ownership for our thoughts, words, beliefs, and actions.
We understand the first law of energy: the more love, fear, joy, happiness, etc you give, the more you have.
We take responsibility for problems, and reflect on how we may have contributed to the problem, since our principle ability to effect change lies within ourselves. So identifying our part in the creation of the problem usually provides a key to its solution.
We eschew drama, including rumors and gossip. We resolve disagreements one-on-one and don’t drag others into the problem (except mediators)
Feedback and respectful confrontation require courage: they are gifts we share when needed to help each other grow.
We believe in “Secure attachment”, the comfortable relationship state achieved when people can express themselves, be heard, have appropriate limits, and respect the space and limits of others